sounds to me like he is lazy and has no motivation... although the fact that he has 4 children with a wife that doesn't work should be more than enough motivation for me... As a husband and father, he should want more for his family and want nothing but the best for them.... Just ask him what his problem is....How do I get my husband to change jobs?
He's an idiot. pure and simple.
that is easy mention alimony....The world does not revolve around you. I am sorry to have to break the news to you. I know the truth is harsh but some times if you really want something get it yourself. You want more money find a stay home job. Place more value on your on assets not his. What would you do if he dropped dead tomorrow. Well don;t wait until then help him to make the best of your life's. If all you do is complain He probably doesn't feel appreciated much. Have you ever thought from his point of view. Be a part of the solution not part of the problem. When a person wants change the first thing they should do is look at themselves and say what can I do to make this a change for the better for everyone.
There cannot be revolutionary change.You have to search for.
What is his job, nothing is wrong most employers wont hire a person staight out of school and if he is in his field now than 90000 is prob a top out pay and he needs to work his way up.
i bet he is afraid or he likes the job he is at sometimes it isn't about the money but the quality of the job and the time at home that makes it worth it in the long run i wouldn't want to take a job where i worked like 70 hrs a week and couldn't see family when i am working a job of 40 hrs a week and like the people and the job know what i mean and why are you a stay at home mom is it cause you have really little kids or cause you think he should be doing all the work while you sit a play on his money i think if you don't have supper little kids or you have people to help with day care or watching the under school age children then you should also be contributing to the income of the family what if your husband gets hurt and can't work then what will you do for food or to pay the bills i feel strongly about mothers needing to help with the finances of a family just my opinion
Okay coming from someone who has been in your husbands shoes. It is not that easy to just get another job. Most jobs that require degrees take time to get. You cant just rush into a 90,000 a year job. Did you think that maybe your husband is waiting for the right job to come avalible. If he is, he is only being smart. I know that when you are stuggling more money sounds nice, but honey you cannot base your happiness on how much money you guys are making. Please do not weigh your twos financial problems all on his head, because he is not jumping to look for another job. If anything maybe he just wants a break. College is draining. Give him at least a year. Trust me Money is not everything, as much as you think it is, once he is making 90,000, if you are one who really only values the price of things then even that will eventually not be enough. Give him a break...
Get a job, thats will be his first indicator that you are concerned for money. Also you cant make him take another job, he has to want to, even though the other job means more money, hes complacent with what hes doing and doesnt see why he should change that, so, you can take the bills, put them on the table and talk to him nicely, stop nagging or he wont see it as concern and he'll just become resentfull as it seems you are close to becoming, talk it out, nicely.
Forget that your husband might be happy where he is and forget that he is working to take care of his family, regardless of how much he is making. Have you stop to think that the more money he is making the greater the responsibility he is going to have? He might not have the hours that he does not to spend with the family. He might have to travel out of state with this higher paying job. He might be more stressed. I understand that you have four kids. I have a degree and I am a stay at home mom. My husband is in the military and no we don't make that much $$$ but we budget what we have. I know for a fact that just because you have a degree in one thing doesn't mean that it is easy to find a job in that particular field. Just support the man. You married him to be the head of his house, let him. He might be filling out applications for a better paying job and wants to surprise you when he gets that great job offer. Its so many women who want a man that will work, stop complaining about the one you have who will!!!
Then GET UP %26amp; GET A JOB! Stop relying on him to make all the money while you stay home %26amp; complain about it. You need to really stop %26amp; think about what you are doing %26amp; how much it sounds like you are pushing more than you should be communicating with him on a mature level %26amp; supporting him through his decisions. If 36,000 is all he can make right now, then you need to accept it %26amp; talk to him about how you feel (like grown adults). He's the only one that can make the change. You on the other hand should be thankful you are getting something right now, but it sure is hell of a lot better than NOTHING. You can't be the bossy one if your not the one making all the money. If you want to see some improvements, your better off finding a Day Care for your little ones %26amp; finding yourself a daytime job to boost up that income. Just be thankful that...regardless how much money your husband is making, at least he's doing something out there that he enjoys %26amp; that he's happy with. There are many other men out there who don't do squat. Be thankful that your husband is working %26amp; that he's not out in the streets somewhere doing drugs or getting drunk.
Seriously, your situation sounds like your having a hard time but, your really better off just relaxing, sit down, take a deep breath %26amp; think about how you %26amp; your husband can work things out together to help improve your family's lifestyle. Have faith that it will, be more positive %26amp; become more motivated. Having to stay home %26amp; take care of 4 kids is hard work! We give you credit for that. Your mind thinking you can make things better for you guys shows you are a great mom! GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL!
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